Being together

Hey there guys... Thanks for visiting my page and thanks for dropping comments on my previous posts. You guys out there have been really encouraging me to keep on blogging.

Recently, i have been drying out of idea of what to share. I don't really know what topic i can deliver this time but I've just got an inspiration for this post. It's about something that is very close to us but we seem not able to see it. It's about being together with others.

I've been traveling quite a lot to different kind of places. From my small, sweet hometown to the busy city lifestyle, i've been wondering to various kind of places. And one thing that i really enjoy the most when I am traveling is, guess what? The PEOPLE. Seriously, I don't know why I am born to be "talkative" person. I guess the only reason I can give now why I am a people-man is I cannot stand quietness and I really need to talk. Whenever it feels quiet, I always try to break it and start a conversation.

Anyway, I am not really a people-man, but some of my friends said that I am one. Some of my friends told me that I am a friendly man. I don't know how friendly I am but I am trying to be what i want to be, that is to be ME :)

Being together with people is the nature of human. I cannot imagine myself leaving on an island ALONE (just like Tom Hank in the movie "Cast Away"). We, humans love to live around people... but not with everyone in the world. You see, we are actually quite selective when we hang around with people or even our friends. We may feel more comfortable with one of our friends but not to the others. I also feel the same too. We feel more comfortable with somebody but not with somebody else. We can share more ideas, jokes and thoughts with that person but not with anybody else. I've been wondering why does this happen (of course, as a human). I figure it out and it actually finally comes to 2 word...

SIMILARITIES and SUITABILITY.

When we meet a person for the very first time, we find it is quite hard to start a conversation. We seem to be lost in the midst of finding ideas of what to talk about. This because we have not found the similarities between us and the person we just met. I know that is not true for everyone because some people just know how to start a conversation. But initially, they also find difficulty in starting a conversation.

Anyway, I am not going to blog about how to start a conversation. What I am going to point out here is what makes we feel more comfortable with a person but not to another person. It is actually back to our own principle of our life. We feel more comfortable speaking to a person who shares some similar traits with us. I always looked and observed people around me. They do talk to everyone but one thing that I observed is that, they will feel more comfortable when they talk to someone. They talk more comfortably with that person compared with the others. Humans are more comfortable when they found something that is familiar and similar to them. This also applied the same in our daily conversation. We feel more comfortable speaking with people who share the same styles and traits with us.

This is very dangerous because if we are going to stay like this, we will tend to be more selective in our conversation. This may lead to bias and "mistreated" and "misconception" towards another people. We share something with a person we feel comfortable with but not to the others. I know you may mention that we want to take care of another people's feelings but why through ignoring them? You may never know that they wanted to hear the same thing because you are ignoring them because they are not the same.

Anyway, we also need to trust in building relationship. As we have more trust with one fellow, we feel secure when we share our thoughts with that person. We feel more secure sharing what we feel and what we think with somebody that we trust. Thus, we will be able to eliminate the earlier problems that I've pointed out.

When somebody is suitable with us, we tend to turn to that person to talk with but not with others. We are able to share without hesitation with that person.
When you this, you are already ignoring some other people who might be a better person than the person that you already have. As you carry on, you will only laugh and cry with "this person" but not with the others. Then, this will limit the number of people that you are going to share your thought with. As it continue, only a small number of people will really know who you are.

There is nothing wrong of having a small number of people who now us better and whom we can share our thought with. But isn't it will be much better if we can share our thought with more people...
Isn't it will be much better if we can be good and nice to everyone...
Isn't it will be much better if we have lots of best friends instead of only one...

Think about it. Be universal (Thanks, Dad).

Talking, sharing, gaining and learning...

Hi guys. Thanks ya for visiting my page. I've been experiencing quite a good week. I've got time to spend for myself (not like a couple of weeks before where i've been focus out of my purpose of life). Anyway, how is life going over there, friend? Hope you guys are also having a good week as well.

So, this time I am not going to tackle the topic "Love". But i still have something that is might fall in to your interest. This time I am going to tackle a topic about "sharing and learning with OLDER people".

Ha, i know you guys might say that "I'll know what are going to talk about". But anyway, have you guys really experience how does it really feel to talk with the elderly?

Me myself, i've been spending quite sometime talking with older people. I like to talk with older people because they have taste the salt more than us. That's why they got kidney problem after that... hahaha. I am just kidding.


Anyway, I am seriously have learned a lot from them. Perhaps because it is my nature to talk with older people. When ever i go back to my village (my longhouse to be exact), I've always find some time to spend a lot of my time talking and sharing with my grandfather. I love talking with him because he has a lot of things and experiences to share with me. I love listening to his opinions and sharing my views about life and on what happening around. But, recently my grandfather became partially deaf and he could not really listen to what i am trying to share with him. Sigh... :(

Some how or rather, I still find some of my time to talk with somebody who is much older than me. I have a lot of "old friends" whenever I go to a certain place. I can really connect and converse with them. I always find it is easy to find a topic to talk about (or sometime they find the topic to talk about... most of the time actually). I can easily grew fond to an older person as long as they are willing to become my "teacher" to teach me about "life".

The very reason I love talk with older people is, I know that they have the answers towards the life problems. Reason why? Because the have more experiences than me. That's the reason why.

I know that whenever I approach them to ask for advice, I believe that they always have one because they have been through my stage at one point of their life. And they know exactly what i am asking about. Even if they don't know, they will always have good and nice experiences to share with.


I still remember when I talked with my foster father (who is actually quite an old man), he always told me, "youngsters know a lot of stuffs through learning (and imagining what's happening) but old people have a lot of knowledge because they experienced them." I always envy old people because they have more experience than me but I will wait for my turn to speak with the young people in the future.

Anyway, I know that some of us is too shy to talk and share our thoughts or feelings with the elderly. Some of us are shy of them because we don't want them to point out what we have done wrong or what we could have done better to improve our life. Some of us is just to shy to admit what they have did in their life, what they believe about life and what they commit their life into, to the elderly. I know how does embarrass feel like when you approach old people but which one is more shameful: to know that what's wrong at the first place or to do something wrong that we could have avoid if we seek for guidance.

There is a lot to be gained when we talk with another person who is much older than us. Talking with a person who is older than us make us more mature. We become more realistic and rational in our life and in our action. I want to quote one story that is told by my "dad" when i met him last week:

"Tim, you want to know one thing. I've spoken to a young lady recently and she told me that she rather talk with people who come from the same age as her."
"Then, what?"
"And then i asked her, what will you learn from a person who have the same level of experience as you? Talk with somebody who is older than you than you will learn something new and fresh."

That's true. I know some of you might disagree with what i mentioned but anyway that is the truth. You will learn better from a person who have the first hand information. From a person that have been living and experiencing life more than us. You may have learned something from your friends but most of the time they heard of what they said from somebody else or they just use their logical thinking to at least give their opinions. But older people will answer your questions with their experiences. Which one is more valuable and more believable: Imagination or Logic or Experiences?

Imagination and logical thinking can sometime be right and sometime be wrong. But experience, what can be wrong with it. Experience is something that is true, something that is gain when a person pass through the time of their life. And there is no false experience (unless that person lie to you in which is unlikely to older people because they have the true experience to share with).

Learning from others experience is very vital in our life. Because we may not be able to experience what other people experienced. We might not see or view the world and life from the angles other people see them. This is why we need to learn from them; to see what they see and to view how they view.


I also know that there is some cons when you learn from others experience. One of them is that you will not be able to experience the things that you have learned from other people to the fullest because you know about it already. Anyway there is nothing wrong by learning from older people because in this world there is so much more to experience.

Besides that, there are people who experienced things by themselves but some other people learned from the others. It is just like scientists. Some scientists create their own hypothesis and test it themselves. And other scientists, they re-experiment what they observed from other scientists founding.

So friends, that's about it. I am really glad that I finally can share about this to you guys out there because I found that the younger generations nowadays spend less time with older people. I hope that you will learn something here.

Go and spend sometime with your grandparents, your parents and who ever older people that you know.
Because it is always worthy to spend our time with them (for the precious moments and knowledge that we learn from them).

Thanks.

I am a...

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Sightseeing at Taman Bunga P. Pinang

At last, after 2 months being in Penang, i managed to get the opportunity to shoot nice scenery pictures in Penang. To be exact, i went to Taman Bunga Pulau Pinang for shooting session.

It was a great evening even though the weather was not at my side. It was drizzling when i arrived there. But, God is very wonderful. The rain stopped and I used that opportunity to shoot some pictures. Even though the weather was quite gloomy, I was very determined to take some pictures (hehehe... photography is still my passsion). I was wondering if it the day was continue to rain, i am still going to shoot some pictures, in the rain :)

Anyway, that place is totally great. It is beautiful and the hill is marvelous. I thought that Penang does not have this kind of place, but my thought was wrong. Penang does have this place and it is really magnificent. Even though i took the pictures during gloomy evening, but they still turn out to be nice scenery pictures. Take a look at some of the pictures...



























I know there is a couple of monkey's pictures but no need to worry. They are nice animal. I mean, seriously, the monkeys over there are quite civilized. They don't jump on you and grab your food. The only think that you should worry about them is, they like to eye on you (for food of course) . Sometime, they look pretty harmful but actually no. They are quite timid. I think this the most timid monkeys that i have ever encountered. Nice monkeys...

The air over there is refreshing. The green grass clean my eyes and the beautiful scene reminds me of the power of The Almighty. How beautiful are His creations. It is a great place to go. It's nothing but extraordinary.

So, that's about it. I am really thankful to Fiq (Fiq, thanks a lot ya!) because he brought me to this place and it is really nice. A lot of people jog over there and I really want to jog there because the place is so green and refreshing. It is nice!

Peace, green!

Aargh!!! (God, please forgive me and forgive him)

I don't know how to start this blog because I am so PISSED OFF of what had happened last night. I could not believe this is the out come when i helped somebody.
My goodness, what has happen to the world. Why would my life become more miserable when i helped somebody? WHY?
I could not hold this anger feeling any longer and i could not find any other ways to release it. And that's why i will blog it.

Last night, my friend come to visit me because he wanted to copy some of the movies that i have. And the incident began...

Somebody that i have helped before suddenly did something that is small but quite a big matter. It's not the matter of life and death, but it could be if i wanted too. He accidentally locked the bathroom's doors. Not only his bathroom's door but also mine! My goodness, how come he can become so careless in his "life and action"... I was standing still, did not know what to say because the thing happen within at most 5-8 minutes. Just a few minutes after he locked his bathroom, he locked my bathroom's door. For your information, our house only have 2 bathrooms. And why i hardly forgive him is, he did the locking-all-the-bathroom's door thing within 5-8 minutes. It's just like a couple of minutes after i reminded him not to lock the door when not using it and also reminded him to make sure it is unlock after he use the toilet. This is like "totally" unforgiven!
F***... I don't want to give a f*** about this, but it cost my day to be miserable.

To make thing worst, I'll call the maintenance of this house to come and bring the keys to unlock the door (because he has the keys and I don't). Worse still, he is outstation. And then i call my other 2 housemates asking for the landlady's contact number, worse still, they don't have her number. Then, I have to wait for evening to wait for the maintenance to come back from outstation to unlock the bathrooms.

I don't care about the damn door actually. What i really care is, how come he forgot what i said and told and mentioned and advised him in a couple of minutes? I know that human have some difficulty to change, but hey... this is only a small-bad habit to change. I have not asked him to change his worst attitude...

Some more, it happened a few times in his previous house. And yet, he is still the same after he entered this house. Have he ever done "muhasabah diri"? AARGH!!!

My goodness... With all the love of world, i ask for forgiveness and i want God to forgive him. Because he didn't know what he do... May the Lord assist him...

God forgive me of what i've done...